Oh...how the suburbs just r.o.c.k.
We've lived here a year, this
month. We *love* our house and the historic neighborhood that we live
in....as I mentioned in my previous post, it is very woodsy feeling for
this part of the world (45 minutes from Manhattan). The abundance and
variety of trees and birds is really wonderful. It is like Fantasia each
and every morning: bunnies, birds of all shapes and sizes, woochucks,
etc. All of that said, we have not really met anyone with the exception
of the neighbor directly across the street. She actually seemed quite
lovely right off the bat, brought us over cookies with her little
daughter, introduced herself, etc.
In my mind, I was tripping
over myself to be friendly, chatty, chipper etc. I sent her a thank you
note for the cookies, a Xmas card, and have chatted at every appropriate
opportunity including unshowered at the grocery store. K has also
extended himself and he is not particularly gregarious by nature. He is
far more reserved but has often stopped over to chat while out working
on the yard.
Beyond this woman who we will call Neighbor #1 (N1
for short), we have not found anyone else to be particularly friendly.
Her two sidekicks, also stay at home mom's, are often hanging around in
each others yards, etc, but neither will so much as wave hello. I kind
of thought they were jerks but really didn't think too much of it. I
continued to wave like a lunatic to every person that drove within 2
miles of our house.
Enter Auggie and N2 (Neighbor #2). I met N2
during lunch time walks when she also walks her dog. We both chatted it
up immediately, she was friendly and I liked her a lot. I saw her today
and one thing leads to another and she informs me that N1 has been very
gossipy about her and that we should be careful what we say to her
because she has already put out the word that K and I are "not
friendly". Huh???? WTF???? One could imagine that N2 was saying out
of spite for not being a part of N1's click but she cited 2 incidences
that she would not have known if N1 had not been talking about us. The
first being that I didn't answer the door on Halloween. She is correct,
when I was on the phone with my best friend for 1/2 hour, I did not
answer the door. Fucking sue me. The second instance is that we had a
bbq and invited her and her hubby and daughter. She said he had to work
so we assumed that meant she wasn't interested in coming but said,
please come if you feel like it. Well my bad. I didn't follow up with
her and invited her AGAIN.
Quite simply, these people suck. They
are bored, insecure, snitty wives with no lives outside of their snarky,
small town bullshit. Rather than being angry and hurt, I should be
compassionate for how lame they are. But I am not quite there yet. I'm
still pissed and hurt. We're new here. Our friends are all back in the
city. It would have been nice to live somewhere that we feel like we fit
in and have a little community.
Oh well. I guess we are just one
step closer to finally moving off the grid to the farm in Montana or
Colorado to raise our farm of bulldogs. Ha!